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What exactly could hypnotherapy help me with ?

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What exactly could hypnotherapy help me with ?

It’s just for weight loss or giving up smoking – isn’t it ?!

While Hypnotherapy is certainly very effective for both these issues it can also be incredibly successful in helping with so much more !

It can actually have a positive effect on any problem where thinking is involved – and when you stop to consider it – isn’t that most issues !!

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Of course certain circumstances happen in our life, and in the world, that we have no control over. However, where we do have control is in how we react. It might not seem like it at the time as we are often unaware of these thoughts, embedded in our unconscious minds. Hypnotherapy can help you identify and let go of unhelpful unconscious thoughts and replace them with ones that support and inspire.

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Our thoughts   ->  our feelings   ->  our actions/behaviours/habits   ->  our results in life

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So if you want to change the results in your life, if you want to start behaving differently, replace old habits with new or if you want to change how you feel it all leads back to changing your thoughts.

Can you see now that this is how hypnotherapy can help.

Exam Success !!

At this time of year many students, but also their families, are all too aware of the exams that are looming ( we have two revisers in our house at the moment so I speak from personal experience !)

I see a lot of students both from schools and universities who have realised that hypnotherapy can be just as vital to their revision process as the number of hours put in at their desk – so have your ever considered that hypnotherapy could super charge your revision and exam
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This year I have developed a hypnotherapy ‘Preparing for your exams’ package which includes two face to face hypnotherapy sessions , recordings to listen to in between sessions to maximise the power of revision and enhance exam performance, email support and short motivational videos as a power boost that can even be watched on that walk to the exam.

Are you interested but not sure exactly how this may help?

Exam preparation is one of those things that is simple but not necessarily easy !

Why ? because as in so many other areas of our lives our emotions can come in and disrupt everything.

Hypnotherapy can help manage your emotions and get them to work with you rather than disrupting you – just as it is being used in preparation and performance in professional sport.

Stressful thoughts actually get in the way of learning. They set you into the ‘flight or fight’ mode and shut down the wider more imaginative problem solving thinking which comes from the frontal lobes. Wouldn’t you rather feel calm and harness the potential of this type of thinking ? Isn’t it about being focused and productive and revising ‘smart’ rather than revising ‘long’ !
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There are certain tools which can really help revision. Writing and sticking to a realistic timetable is the first to tackle and hypnotherapy can really help with the motivation to do this. It is also vitally important to timetable regular breaks and treats to utilise the science of how the mind works. The important thing is to allow knowledge to be transferred from the conscious mind (short term memory) to the unconscious (long term memory) where it is then available whenever you want to retrieve it. Having a break, changing focus, doing something you enjoy not only improves the emotions but actually enhances this trickling down of vital learning.
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Hypnotherapy helps you deal with all the emotions you’ll experience during the learning process and helps you stay motivated when it feels too difficult.

Visualising success is also vitally important. During hypnotherapy you can harness the power of creative visualisation to imagine being in the exam with it going really well and also visualise getting the results and feeling happy and proud. On some level this frees the mind up to let go of doubt and instead focus on the ‘how will I do this’ rather than questioning ‘can I do this’. You could be amazed at how much energy can then be freed up to focus on exam preparation and performance instead.

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On the exam day itself hypnotherapy can really help you tap into calm, focused, resourceful thinking. If there is a difficult or unforeseen question instead of being thrown and it affecting you going forward it helps you deal with it in the best way you can and then let it go. No ongoing discouragement or allowing it to affect your performance with the rest of the paper, just like the thinking of the best sportsmen and women.
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Developing skills to deal with lack of motivation, overwhelm and discouragement will not only be valuable during this exam period but will be great great tools to take out into everyday life. So maybe you see that hypnotherapy could help you feel better during this revision period but are still asking could it actually make a difference to the exams ?

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Obviously I am not claiming that hypnotherapy will improve your IQ but what I can say is that it can super charge your revision and allow you to utilise more of your brain’s potential and that definitely can correlate with improved exam performance and results.

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So if you are interested in finding out more about my new “Preparing for your exams’ package why not contact me drclairejetha@blueyonder.co.uk or phone on 07939 563522.

Visualisation – Is it just woo ??

Have you discovered the power of visualisation yet ?
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Or are you still missing out by considering it just ‘ new age woo ‘.

Have you recognised that the biggest shift you can have in life is to see yourself as separate from your thoughts, learning to control them, rather than being at the mercy of your thoughts controlling you.

Visualising can be a powerful way towards that shift .

Sport is an area which has really taken the power of visualisation on board. Successful sportsmen, women and teams all consider mind training to be just as important as the physical training. Lots employ sports psychologists, who consider positive visualisation as one of their most important strategies to teach.
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Visualisation works in two major ways.

When we really want something we often spend a lot of mental energy going round and round in circles.

I want it ….but am I good enough….yes I deserve it ….oh no I won’t be successful …. yes I can do it ….no, I’m not lucky …. I do have the skills though … but perhaps I’m not enough… something might go wrong … someone might be better …..

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Visualisation works by imprinting the belief in your mind that what you want has already happened. As it is now a fait accompli you can let go of that exhausting pattern of doubt. Getting rid of the “whether it will happen” questioning leaves room instead for the ‘ how will it happen ‘ strategy planning. A much more productive and positive place to be.

Then the second way visualisation can be used is as part of your strategy.

Australian Psychologist Alan Richardson did a famous study with basketball players, assessing their ability to make free throws. He had three groups, one who practiced 20 mins a day, one group who visualised themselves successfully making the throws and a control group that did neither.
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The group that ‘only’ visualised had a similar improvement in their skills to those that had actually practised. It’s a pity he didn’t have a fourth group who practiced and visualised to demonstrate the synergistic effect of doing both.

So maybe now you can buy into the theory that visualisation works – but are still wondering how do you go about it?

During a hypnotherapy session we utilise the powerful effects of trance to enhance visualisation but you can mimic these effects in the comfort of your own home. What you are aiming to do is, by using all your senses, create all the images, sounds and feelings in your mind of the successful outcome you want and /or the improvements in your activity that will achieve this.

So how do you do it?

Relax, take a couple of deep breathes, let go of all the tension, and close your eyes. It works even better if you find a quiet spot where nobody will bother you. One of the best times to do it is just before you go to sleep or when you first wake up. A few minutes regularly is all you need.
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Settle on an image that epitomises what you want. If you were going to make a short film that would instantly portray this, what would you be doing, saying, who else would be there, what would they be saying, what is the soundtrack to your film. What are you feeling. Try to imagine actually feeling that in your body rather than labelling the emotion. Edit your film, take some shots from the first person viewpoint and then some as if observing yourself. Enjoy the whole process and see if it remains the same each time or if different things pop up and embrace it all.

As you practice you set down those new neural pathways in your brain. The beliefs get stronger everyday and, with that doubt gone, you free up your imagination to find new ways to hone your skills. These also then become part of the process of getting where you want to be.
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Visualisation can be used for absolutely anything you want in your life, successful relationships, work, performance or achievements. What you might not have appreciated is that you are already frequently visualising outcomes, but often not those that you actually want. Worrying about the future and imaging things going wrong is a prime example of this or wanting to be slim but focusing on hating being fat is another.

Why not make now, the time to change ? Take control of your thoughts instead of them controlling you. This famous Henry Ford saying is very apt
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From today you could start to train your brain to use visualisation in a positive way !

The choice is yours !

WAKE UP !!!

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Do you think hypnotherapy can only help by putting you into a trance ?
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You might be surprised to hear, that on many occasions it’s actually more about waking you up.

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How so ?
Our minds love being efficient. They spend lots of time setting down automatic unconscious patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours, freeing up our conscious minds to concentrate on more important things. Think of some of the things you have learnt throughout your life – walking, riding a bike, learning to drive – when you stop to think about it, aren’t all these now automatic patterns happening outside your conscious awareness.

Well that isn’t a problem, is it ?

Of course not – it can be very beneficial – but what your if brain also lays down automatic patterns that do cause problems in your life.

Overeating, overdrinking and smoking are examples that come to mind. Clients often describe having no conscious recollection but before they know it the jar of biscuits, bottle of wine or packet of cigarettes are finished and the whole process seems a blur.
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What’s holding you back ?

What is holding you back in life ?

What’s stopping you achieving what you truly want?

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It might be that you crave peace of mind, success in your work , contentment in the family, achievement in sport, weight loss or whatever else that is important to you.

If only wanting were enough surely you would have it by now, yet do you never seem able to get where you want to be?

What is it that is holding you back ?

Perhaps I can use the power of story telling and analogy, both powerful tools in a hypnotherapists tool box, to illustrate what might be going on.

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Many countries with less stringent animal rights still use elephants as part of their circus acts. These huge majestic beasts are often tethered in the circus compound by a weak rope tied to a short stake in the ground. How is it that this can hold a huge adult elephant who should easily have the power to pull such a stake out of the ground.
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That is the power of conditioning !!
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As a small cub the trainer tethers the elephant to the stake and however much he tries to pull the small elephant cannot get free. A powerful loop of conditioning is set up in the elephant’s brain. This becomes so effective that by the time he grows up the process is fixed and the belief so strong, he doesn’t even try to break free.

Can you see such how such conditioning could have been set down in your mind.

Are there beliefs from your past that are so fixed that you are not even aware of them ?

How can you break free of what is limiting you and harness the wonderful mechanism of your brain’s neuroplasticity, it’s power to change.

It is often said that the potential for change is in the power of the questions we ask ourselves.

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Would you like to shine the spotlight of awareness on the limiting beliefs of your past,

Start by asking yourself some good searching questions. Our excuses about why we are stuck is often a very good place to start.

After all no one argues that they haven’t grown out of the shoes and clothes they were made to wear as children and so can now choose their own individual style.
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In the same vein why hold onto old beliefs that you were also given in your past.

Today why not choose your own style in your beliefs as well !

Uncovering who you are

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I love this quote from the author Steven Pressfield

“Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.”

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and I think this could so equally be applied to hypnotherapy.

The job of hypnotherapy is not to help shape you into some ideal that you imagine you ought to be but instead to help you find out who you already are, and truly become that person .

How often are our goals about adding to our lives with an underlying unrecognised assumption that we are not enough. Therefore we need more money, success, achievements, a better body, more friends.

We have got so used to feeling we need more and that we continually need to improve that we only think this is a commendable attribute.

After all a whole industry of self help has even been built upon this !

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But what if all this were hiding who we really are and instead of helping us, is hindering us in living a life that would leave us feeling truly satisfied?

This doesn’t mean you have to stay where you are and not have goals or move forward but it is about understanding that the intention behind what we do can be the most powerful factor in our results.

What about changing the intention that underpins your life.

Could you live your life with the impetus to find out who you already are and then be that person rather than continually trying to improve yourself or mould yourself into someone you think you should be.

Your initial reaction might be surely I know who I am.

But really do you – how much is actual knowledge about yourself and how much is belief in old unexamined thoughts that might be actually untrue for you.

Letting go of your old repetitive patterns of thinking about yourself can be so powerful and make room for finding out who you really are and how you want to think. Hypnotherapy can be one of the means to start that process.

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Such a change of direction in your thinking can lead to big changes in how you feel, act and ultimately your experience of your life.

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What are you waiting for ?

The Power of Reframing

Did you hear about this book that was all over the internet last year ?

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Having read and implemented it’s advice, over my Christmas and New Year blogging break, I can attest to the fact that it really works. In two days, I easily cleared out our basement after it had previously defeated me for more than two years, so I was really interested to investigate how Marie Kondo’s techniques have such a positive effect. I realised one of the ways way they work is by using the technique of reframing. This obviously interested me as it overlaps with my practice of hypnotherapy.

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Reframing is a powerful tool I often encourage clients to use during a session. We can’t necessarily change our lives or what is happening to us but what we can change is how we think about it all. Helping someone see something in their life, behaviour or attitudes from a different perspective can instigate a new flexibility in their thinking which can lead to a profound shift. The gas half empty or glass half full analogy can exemplify this.

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So how does the KonMarie method reframe decluttering ?

Most methods of decluttering and tidying involve looking at your stuff and deciding what to get rid of. This taps into the subconscious mind by instigating a state of loss. Is it surprising then, that at some level, we feel a resistance to loss and so put off the task.

The KonMari method involves taking everything out onto the floor (as if you were going to get rid of it all ) but then considering each item and deciding which to keep. This then positively taps into a sense of gain in the unconscious mind, obviously a much more comfortable place to be.

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I wonder where else in your life might such a change of perspective be beneficial ?

If you want to lose weight why not use what ever techniques you can to focus on what you are gaining , health, vitality, an attractive body, new clothes rather than focusing on a state of loss in the food you are not going to be eating.

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Can you see how this could also apply to any changes you wish to make in your life.

Could such reframing keep you sticking to those New Year resolutions that you have made?
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So if you want to implement change in your life what about considering some reframing of your own.

Try and make it a habit to focus on all those things that you will gain !

Always remember ……..

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Why I do hypnotherapy !

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Do you ever wonder why do I do hypnotherapy?

I often use stories and metaphors as part of my work so perhaps this story will speak to you !

Once upon a time, there was an old man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach every morning before he began his work. Early one morning, he was walking along the shore after a big storm had passed and found the vast beach littered with starfish stretching in both directions as far as the eye could see.

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Off in the distance, the old man noticed a small boy approaching. As the boy walked, he paused every so often and as he grew closer, the man could see that he was occasionally bending down to pick up an object and throw it into the sea. The boy came closer still and the man called out, “Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?”

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The young boy paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean. The tide has washed them up onto the beach and they can’t return to the sea by themselves. When the sun gets high, they will die, unless I throw them back into the water.”

The old man replied, “But there must be tens of thousands of starfish on this beach. I’m afraid you won’t really be able to make much of a difference.”

The boy bent down, picked up yet another starfish and threw it as far as he could into the ocean. Then he turned, smiled and said, “I made a difference to that one!

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…………………………………………..Now that’s why I do Hypnotherapy !………………………………………..

The power of small changes


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Are you like a lot of my clients who feel change needs to be dramatic to get the results you want?

Do you find yourself trying to change too much and then getting discouraged when you don’t see results straight away?

Are you ready to try a different approach and recognise the power of small changes in your life.

During hypnotherapy I regularly use stories and metaphors to help clients find a new perspective and then their own solution.

This example illustrates the differences a small change can make over time.

Back over time, about a hundred years ago, ships would sail regularly from Liverpool, across the Atlantic to New York, taking expectant and excited families to new lives and opportunities.
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Once there was a captain who was distracted and happened to change the setting on his ship’s instruments by just a few degrees.

As you know there are 360 degrees in a circle so one or two degrees is such a small change – isn’t it?

However after sailing such a long distance for over three weeks this seemingly very slight change had become dramatically magnified and taken the ship and all those aboard to a completely different destination. Imagine the families’ surprise to find themselves not in grey and drab New York

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…………………………………………..but in sunny Buenos Aries instead !!

I wonder if you were committed to making a small change from today onwards whether you can see how your actions could similarly be magnified. Imagine where you would be in a months time, or six months or even a year.

What about taking a moment to listen to your own intuition as to what small change could be beneficial for you.

Perhaps starting to take a walk everyday. ( a study came out only this week showing that a daily walk was far more effective than any other exercise program in being successful in keeping fit and losing weight – it is also so helpful in lifting your mood and more effective at treating mild depression than antidepressants )

Maybe making time to just sit and be mindful for five minutes before you start your day is what you need to deal with the stress that seems to characterise your life at the moment.

I wonder what is coming to mind for you just now. Whatever it is why not make a commitment to try it out.

Why not make that small change for the next month, let go of the need for drama and instantaneous results but instead enjoy the anticipation of your very own metaphorical Buenos Aires carnival that will come in time !

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Where are you going ?

Where are you going or are you feeling stuck ?

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Do you want change in your life but are disappointed that whatever you try doesn’t work?

Is your experience that however hard you try things just seem to stay the same ?

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Could the solution be as simple as changing your focus ?

So many people come for hypnotherapy and describe very clearly and in great detail what they don’t want in their life but when I ask them what they do want they often find it very difficult to switch their focus and have clarity about their goals and direction.

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Focusing on what you don’t want is counterproductive. You end up holding on to what you really would rather leave in your past. It is like aimlessly walking around while continually looking over your shoulder, so its not surprising that you don’t get very far!

If you don’t have a destination in mind how can you be surprised that you journey is unfocused, unlikely to succeed just by accident and hence much more likely to fail.

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You don’t get to be slim by continually focusing on not wanting to be fat.
You don’t get to be happy by continually focusing on trying not to think negative thoughts.
You don’t get to be calm and peaceful by continually focusing on not wanting to be fearful.
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If you want to go to London, you won’t just get there by deciding you don’t want to be in Bristol and bumbling off, or if you do be prepared to perhaps only get as far as Bath. Of course Bath is a lovely place but a bit disappointing if what you really would like is a trip on the London Eye!
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Focusing on your end point is a really strong inspiration and drive for change.

Usain Bolt always has his eye on the finish ( not on the blocks he has just left ) to make sure he runs a successful steady race. Many sportsman visualise success as an integral part of their training process – why not model your behaviour and success on theirs.

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Perhaps you could start to explore what success means for you. Not what you think other people would describe but what really inspires you. Visualising that success is a vitally important tool for change and one that is regularly used in hypnotherapy.

However what if you try but find it impossible to actually visualise yourself having the success that you want.

Then it would be useful to explore the resistance you are holding in your unconscious mind. Uncovering such feelings such as ‘I am not worthy’,’I am not good enough’,’I don’t deserve this’,’I am a failure’ and finding a way for the unconscious mind to let go of these and replace them with supportive beliefs is vital for any lasting change. Hypnotherapy could definitely help with this.

As with all essential truths this is nothing new but in fact age old knowledge. Socrates was saying exactly this in ancient times

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So why not change the way you go about things.

Look at what you want to change but very much as a means of helping you pin point what success looks and feels like for you. Then best foot forward and set out on your new journey this time with your clear destination in mind.

Good Luck and Bon Voyage !!

What exactly could hypnotherapy help me with ?

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Exam Success !!

At this time of year many students, but also their families, are all too aware of the exams that are looming ( we have two …

Visualisation – Is it just woo ??

Have you discovered the power of visualisation yet ? . . Or are you still missing out by considering it just ‘ new …