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The power of small changes


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Are you like a lot of my clients who feel change needs to be dramatic to get the results you want?

Do you find yourself trying to change too much and then getting discouraged when you don’t see results straight away?

Are you ready to try a different approach and recognise the power of small changes in your life.

During hypnotherapy I regularly use stories and metaphors to help clients find a new perspective and then their own solution.

This example illustrates the differences a small change can make over time.

Back over time, about a hundred years ago, ships would sail regularly from Liverpool, across the Atlantic to New York, taking expectant and excited families to new lives and opportunities.
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Once there was a captain who was distracted and happened to change the setting on his ship’s instruments by just a few degrees.

As you know there are 360 degrees in a circle so one or two degrees is such a small change – isn’t it?

However after sailing such a long distance for over three weeks this seemingly very slight change had become dramatically magnified and taken the ship and all those aboard to a completely different destination. Imagine the families’ surprise to find themselves not in grey and drab New York

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…………………………………………..but in sunny Buenos Aries instead !!

I wonder if you were committed to making a small change from today onwards whether you can see how your actions could similarly be magnified. Imagine where you would be in a months time, or six months or even a year.

What about taking a moment to listen to your own intuition as to what small change could be beneficial for you.

Perhaps starting to take a walk everyday. ( a study came out only this week showing that a daily walk was far more effective than any other exercise program in being successful in keeping fit and losing weight – it is also so helpful in lifting your mood and more effective at treating mild depression than antidepressants )

Maybe making time to just sit and be mindful for five minutes before you start your day is what you need to deal with the stress that seems to characterise your life at the moment.

I wonder what is coming to mind for you just now. Whatever it is why not make a commitment to try it out.

Why not make that small change for the next month, let go of the need for drama and instantaneous results but instead enjoy the anticipation of your very own metaphorical Buenos Aires carnival that will come in time !

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Where are you going ?

Where are you going or are you feeling stuck ?

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Do you want change in your life but are disappointed that whatever you try doesn’t work?

Is your experience that however hard you try things just seem to stay the same ?

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Could the solution be as simple as changing your focus ?

So many people come for hypnotherapy and describe very clearly and in great detail what they don’t want in their life but when I ask them what they do want they often find it very difficult to switch their focus and have clarity about their goals and direction.

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Focusing on what you don’t want is counterproductive. You end up holding on to what you really would rather leave in your past. It is like aimlessly walking around while continually looking over your shoulder, so its not surprising that you don’t get very far!

If you don’t have a destination in mind how can you be surprised that you journey is unfocused, unlikely to succeed just by accident and hence much more likely to fail.

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You don’t get to be slim by continually focusing on not wanting to be fat.
You don’t get to be happy by continually focusing on trying not to think negative thoughts.
You don’t get to be calm and peaceful by continually focusing on not wanting to be fearful.
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The unconscious mind doesn’t hear the ‘ not wanting ‘ bit and just hears
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be fat
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be fearful !!!

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If you want to go to London, you won’t just get there by deciding you don’t want to be in Bristol and bumbling off, or if you do be prepared to perhaps only get as far as Bath. Of course Bath is a lovely place but a bit disappointing if what you really would like is a trip on the London Eye!
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Focusing on your end point is a really strong inspiration and drive for change.

Usain Bolt always has his eye on the finish ( not on the blocks he has just left ) to make sure he runs a successful steady race. Many sportsman visualise success as an integral part of their training process – why not model your behaviour and success on theirs.

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Perhaps you could start to explore what success means for you. Not what you think other people would describe but what really inspires you. Visualising that success is a vitally important tool for change and one that is regularly used in hypnotherapy.

However what if you try but find it impossible to actually visualise yourself having the success that you want.

Then it would be useful to explore the resistance you are holding in your unconscious mind. Uncovering such feelings such as ‘I am not worthy’,’I am not good enough’,’I don’t deserve this’,’I am a failure’ and finding a way for the unconscious mind to let go of these and replace them with supportive beliefs is vital for any lasting change. Hypnotherapy could definitely help with this.

As with all essential truths this is nothing new but in fact age old knowledge. Socrates was saying exactly this in ancient times

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So why not change the way you go about things.

Look at what you want to change but very much as a means of helping you pin point what success looks and feels like for you. Then best foot forward and set out on your new journey this time with your clear destination in mind.

Good Luck and Bon Voyage !!

Are you losing your marbles ?!

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How are you getting on ?

Did you decide to replace that detrimental old habit with something more beneficial instead. How is it all going – how many marbles have you moved either metaphorically or in real life. Have you found how using the jars can be a great tool for motivation ?

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Is the motorway of the old behaviour shrinking down – perhaps down to a B road or even a little country lane and the connections in your mind for the new behaviour or habit steadily increasing maybe even up to an A road !

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Don’t worry if at first the new behaviour feels a bit forced or even clunky and robotic – this is all part of the process. What you are aiming to do in this transition period is move from

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….. Conscious competence -> Unconscious competence …

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Just like when you learnt to drive and you had to think about every part of the process and now you don’t think about it, it is just automatic. The same with this new habit, once the motorway of connections has been laid down between the neurons in your brain you will not have to think about it at all.
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If this hasn’t been as easy as you thought and there are very few marbles that have made it from one jar to another there are a few things to consider. Are you doing the typical New Year’s resolution scenario making grand unrealistic plans trying to change too much too soon.

Have you remembered that concept of turtle steps.

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Perhaps you need to break the new habit down into smaller more manageable steps and persist at these before you take on the rest.

Remember any step can feel ridiculously easy as long as you make it small enough. Why not start looking at your goal and chunking it down into the steps you would have to take to get there. Be aware that your inner perfectionist could be making these decisions so bypass this immediately by cutting each step in half. Then keep cutting them in half till they are so easy you almost feel you could do them in your sleep ! Just start with the first easy step, then the next and you now have the pathway to successfully reaching your goal.
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Remember persistence beats perfectionism any day !

Keep doing the behaviour, moving those marbles and let the science of your brain do the rest.

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You will then have the new helpful automatic habit that you have been looking for – Success !

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