Tag: supportive beliefs

Where are you going ?

Where are you going or are you feeling stuck ?

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Do you want change in your life but are disappointed that whatever you try doesn’t work?

Is your experience that however hard you try things just seem to stay the same ?

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Could the solution be as simple as changing your focus ?

So many people come for hypnotherapy and describe very clearly and in great detail what they don’t want in their life but when I ask them what they do want they often find it very difficult to switch their focus and have clarity about their goals and direction.

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what do you want

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Focusing on what you don’t want is counterproductive. You end up holding on to what you really would rather leave in your past. It is like aimlessly walking around while continually looking over your shoulder, so its not surprising that you don’t get very far!

If you don’t have a destination in mind how can you be surprised that you journey is unfocused, unlikely to succeed just by accident and hence much more likely to fail.

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You don’t get to be slim by continually focusing on not wanting to be fat.
You don’t get to be happy by continually focusing on trying not to think negative thoughts.
You don’t get to be calm and peaceful by continually focusing on not wanting to be fearful.
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The unconscious mind doesn’t hear the ‘ not wanting ‘ bit and just hears
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be fat
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be fearful !!!

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If you want to go to London, you won’t just get there by deciding you don’t want to be in Bristol and bumbling off, or if you do be prepared to perhaps only get as far as Bath. Of course Bath is a lovely place but a bit disappointing if what you really would like is a trip on the London Eye!
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Focusing on your end point is a really strong inspiration and drive for change.

Usain Bolt always has his eye on the finish ( not on the blocks he has just left ) to make sure he runs a successful steady race. Many sportsman visualise success as an integral part of their training process – why not model your behaviour and success on theirs.

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usain bolt

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Perhaps you could start to explore what success means for you. Not what you think other people would describe but what really inspires you. Visualising that success is a vitally important tool for change and one that is regularly used in hypnotherapy.

However what if you try but find it impossible to actually visualise yourself having the success that you want.

Then it would be useful to explore the resistance you are holding in your unconscious mind. Uncovering such feelings such as ‘I am not worthy’,’I am not good enough’,’I don’t deserve this’,’I am a failure’ and finding a way for the unconscious mind to let go of these and replace them with supportive beliefs is vital for any lasting change. Hypnotherapy could definitely help with this.

As with all essential truths this is nothing new but in fact age old knowledge. Socrates was saying exactly this in ancient times

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So why not change the way you go about things.

Look at what you want to change but very much as a means of helping you pin point what success looks and feels like for you. Then best foot forward and set out on your new journey this time with your clear destination in mind.

Good Luck and Bon Voyage !!

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